When it comes to the subtle art of reading the signals of girl’s flirting body language gestures, there are a number of key signals to look for. Before we get into that, a few words on reading signs in general.
If you ever compare a list of flirting signals between men and women, there’s going to be a strong trend: the male signals will fill a chapter, while the women’s would fill a book. At the same time, girls are also much stronger at detecting signs in general…including what few male signs there are. That puts us at a competitive disadvantage…but not one that we can’t overcome.
With the background out of the way, let’s look at a few of those flirting body language signals…
1. Personal Space Invasion
In social settings, we have multiple zones of space around us. Within 2 feet of us is our intimate zone, where only extremely close friends, family, or lovers can enter. Going up to 4 feet is the social zone, where we are comfortable with friends or acquantinces. At 8 feet out we have the public zone, where new people and strangers can interact with us. There is some variation in that–people in crowded cities are comfortable closer, while rural dwellers want more space–but it’s a good rule of thumb.
One of the most subtle flirting body language gestures is when a girl briefly enters your intimate space, usually only for the span of a second. This is difficult to detect at first, given how under-the-radar it is, but well worth noting. Also, I need to emphasize that it really is brief…sometimes only a split second!
There are a couple responses to keep in mind. First, when a girl does this, never pull back–doing so signals that she made you uncomfortable, and it will hurt the interaction. Second, her moving into your space temporarily gives you permission to return it, which you should do at an appropriate time, say a minute or two later. Lastly, be careful in doing this yourself…with many girls you’ll need to be the first to enter her space, but there is a risk of creeping her out if you do it too soon. Wait for signals that you can get close.
2. A Fleeting Touch
At any decent sized party or mixer, watch one of the charmers in the room as he/she interacts with new people…as the person they talk to makes a joke or says something witty, often times you’ll see the charmer touch their elbow, tap them on the shoulder, etc.
When it comes to flirting, girls will do the same thing to guys they like. It will appear utterly innocent, as they casually brush their hand along your arm or even lightly touch your chest. At the same time, this gesture is full of meaning…girls don’t touch men that they’re not interested in. When they are around guys that they’re not attracted to, they’ll usually keep their distance so as not to give him the wrong impression.
The rule with casual touches is that girls are hyper-conscious of giving that signal, and will only do it when they’re interested. Obviously, this doesn’t mean jump them then and there…but it does give you permission to move the interaction forward.
That wraps up two key elements of flirtying body language, which is something that you want to become wise to when interacting with girls. Consider these two more signs a girl likes you, and use them well next time you meet some new girls.